I was very unsuccessful with any resolutions in my life. The frustration and the feeling of defeat was crushing my soul, so I decided to find my own success. Now I’d like to share what I discovered.

I have found that starting something new on a Monday, January 1st, or the first of any month, mostly ends up in failure. It doesn’t matter what time or day it is; if you have an urge to change something in your life, start right there and then. Remember, there is no time like the present.

As is almost always the case with starting a new habit, when I fell off the wagon, I learned that the best thing to do is to forgive myself and just get right back on. I also know that some days I don’t have the energy or desire to follow through, so I sit with it and ask myself: “Is this something that I can overcome, or do I have to respect my body, emotions, and mental state?” If it has something to do with my mental or physical state, then I honor it. On the other hand, if I just don’t want to (plain old fashion laziness), then I force myself to push through.

I also discovered that when I accepted the challenge as a life-long change, it became a lifestyle, not just a resolution. I personally find the word “resolutions” to have a negative energy to it. For me, it immediately adds pressure and creates room for failure. A lifestyle is something that is not bound by time, competition, or reaching a final end point. It’s just you living your life according to your own beliefs, needs, and values. Please honor that. 

 For the past two and a half years, I’ve finally been successful with consistent workouts. I learned that if I can’t go one day, it doesn’t mean I’ve failed. That new perspective created such a feeling of freedom within myself. Instead of self-judgement which could start a downward spiral, I simply got back on the wagon.

Now I know that there are people out there who are very disciplined and can push through everything (like my business partner and my husband). And then, there is me. I happen to be an emotionally driven person with ADHD. This “wonderful” combination can be the perfect recipe for failure according to societal standards. Indeed, it’s nearly impossible for me to be consistent in the same way as others. Amazingly, however, I discovered that there is actually a rhythm in the chaos. It’s quite simple. (You can always find consistency within the inconsistency).

 If I compare myself to others who have the ability to just push through, I lose the game and give up. However, because I continuously make the effort to accept myself as who I am, I have found my own unique way to be successful.

Now it’s time for you, too! What is your way of succeeding? And remember, think lifestyle, not resolution.

-Ana Roussev